Parenting Podcast: Taking Stock

Parenting Podcast by Wendy Grinberg, RJE

As the summer comes to a close and the fall approaches, the Jewish calendar calls on us to reflect and take stock. In this week’s parenting podcast, educational psychologist and consultant Lori Day looks back on her long career in education and asks what had changed for parents and what has stayed the same. What challenges are parents facing, and how are kids’ lives different? What do our children need from us? While the answers are familiar: love, attention and guidance; the world we live in can pose new challenges: the distraction of technology, families spread apart, the influence of pop culture, and the lack of unstructured time.

I often ask our parenting experts to imagine what advice they might give to their younger selves. The advice has ranged from forgive yourself to attend to your spouse to eat dinner together. Lori reminds us this week, “You do need to communicate your values.” As the high holidays approach, I’d love to hear from you: what do you think is different for parents and kids today? What would you do differently as a parent,looking back on this year and thinking about what lies ahead?

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Wendy Grinberg, RJE is a URJ Parenting Specialist.

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4 Responses to “Parenting Podcast: Taking Stock”

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    Great observations, but I wonder if comparing one’s recollection of his/her own childhood to the observation of children from an adult viewpoint is valid. Maybe adults always see children’s lives as being more complex and worrisome than the way they remember their own childhoods.

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    I really wonder how parents deal with the use of media. It’s so prevalent, and there is so much out there that is not appropriate. Our children are exposed to such things as sexuality at a very early age. It must be hard to constantly be looking out for what is suitable for a child. Just contrast the show “3 1/2 men” with “Father knows best”. I’m not saying that the old shows were a good representation of what many people had to deal with. They probably were fairy tales in that sense. However, they didn’t have to be constantly screened by parents. There must be a happy medium where children can learn from realistic situations and not be exposed to things beyond their developmental maturity.

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    Kol Hakavod! God bless Ms. Day for acknowledging the problematic influence of pop culture on children and families. Every generation thinks that the next one is going down the toilet, and disapproves of the popular culture of their children’s generation. However, there is something unique and different about cultural trends today. 25 or 50 years ago, parents did not have to check email every 2 seconds on their blackberries, and children did not have to become desensitized to violent stimuli in a digital environment.
    Even when parents do go out of their way to “teach values”, they may not be internalized because of constant distractions, or, if they are internalized, they may be overridden by desensitization. Many children do not exhibit the appropriate empathy, disgust, or anger in the face of cruelty. Sensitive, kind, caring people, especially males, may be an endangered species. I hope that society wakes up, smells the blood-red coffee, and raises the coming generations to turn things around. Sadly, I’m not sure that’s going to happen any time soon–I’m almost tempted to start humming “bayom hahu”.

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    Cincinnati Parent Reply August 19, 2011 at 9:39 am

    We take our children to all sorts of sports or music “practices”. When do we schedule “religious practice”? Do we set Jewish goals for the year? I set a goal to invite other Jewish familes to my home for Shabbat and it was great! Do we attend Jewish community celebrations? Do we have discussions on important Jewish topics? Do we continue our own Jewish education? Do we have Jewish music playing in our cars? Do our kids attend Jewish camp? We need to have a multi-facited approach, because we never know what will be memorable or meaningful to our children.

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