Change is Inevitable; Growth is Optional

by Cantor Susan Caro

While I did not grow up with a female cantor at my congregation, I was fortunate spend many summers at our URJ camps, both as a camper and as a staff member and songleader. It is there that the spark of Jewish music was ignited for me, and where I found numerous female voices bringing new expression to the words and music of our tradition. They were cantorial students and rabbinic students, songleaders and teachers, all of whom encouraged me to find my own way in the Jewish world. My heart has always been touched through music and the arts.

My journey to the cantorate was not a direct one; the leap of faith from committed congregant to spiritual leader was paradoxically both daunting and yet felt like the exactly right next step in my life. I have often been inspired to move through moments of overwhelming transformation by remembering a bumper sticker I saw many years ago: “Change is inevitable; growth is optional.” Each step of change in my personal life is fraught with challenge and discomfort; and yet, if I am honest, each of those moments have shaped and guided my life in one way or another. I believe that the same holds true for most large changes in history.

40 Years of Women on the BimahThere are many women who throughout the course of Jewish history took actions or spoke ideas which, little by little, added depth and seriousness to the voice of women in our tradition. It was Rabbi Sally Priesand, whose courageousness and tenacity raised the voices and visibility of Jewish women to a level of legitimacy not experienced before. Following her, Cantor Barbara Ostfeld was a pioneer in opening the consciousness of our congregants to the female voice as sacred spiritual leader. Their leading presence for women clergy has transformed Reform Judaism forever.

Fifteen years later, my cantorial class at HUC-JIR was enormous, and predominantly women (15 women, three men). Today, women and men have equally-valued voices in the cantorate. The American Conference of Cantors (ACC) honored Barbara and all of the pioneering women in the Cantorate last year, marking Barbara’s 36th year since becoming a cantor. It was extraordinary to hear and experience their stories. To be sure, there are still times of challenge for women in spiritual leadership, though I heard it a lot more in my earlier years: “Gee Cantor, I never met a Cantor without a beard… or a deep voice… that didn’t remind me of my grandfather.” Or, “It is only real prayer for me when I hear a man sing at services/my son’s Bar Mitzvah/my mother’s funeral.” More and more, the stories that I hear and the experiences that I have point only to the unique relationship developed between cantor and congregant, having to do with the interpersonal connections that are created regardless of gender.

Fortunately, the leadership in the ACC had the wisdom to accept the new women graduates of the HUC-JIR School of Sacred Music right away into membership, working to embrace and integrate them into the very fabric of the cantorate. I am proud to serve as the president of the ACC that recognized early on that a vibrant and relevant Judaism must respond to the challenges raised by the position of women in contemporary life, a hallmark of North American Reform Judaism.

Change is inevitable; growth is optional. It is our choice. We all read about the Israeli Reform Rabbi Alona Lisitsa, who recently was appointed to the town council of Mevasseret Zion. A Reform female Israeli rabbi – until recently, we only dared hope. And the walls of the town didn’t come crashing down with her appointment. When we are afraid of change, it destroys us. When we embrace it, we flourish. May all the voices of those who choose to serve our people in leadership be voices that bring hope, inspiration and peace to the Jewish people.

 Cantor Susan Caro, president of the American Conference of Cantors, is a Hospice Chaplain with Kaiser Permanente. Her experience spans work with youth and adults in a variety of teaching settings, choral opportunities, performances throughout the United States, and creative liturgical and spiritual work.

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5 Responses to “Change is Inevitable; Growth is Optional”

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    We shouldn’t forget, when we look at the Religious Council of Mevasseret Zion, that it’s just as remarkable that a Reform rabbi was seated as that a woman rabbi was seated.

    And while we chuckle at the anecdotes about children who express wonder at the revelation that men can be rabbis or cantors — based on their previous exposure only to women in those positions — we need to be concerned about statistics like Cantor Caro cited about her graduating class of 15 women and 3 men. It would be just as wrong for the Reform bimah of the future to be dominated by women as it was for that of the past to exclude them.

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    Perhaps the Reform Movement’s greatest contribution to tikun olam is the dropping of the bar to the admission of female clergy. While I was brought up in a male-only Jewish world, I am no longer able to imagine praying without my sisters’ voices, beside me and on the bimah. Moreover, this is not just change; this is the tsedek that D’varim requires us to pursue.

    M. Lev expresses concern about the disappearance of male clergy. I would note the difference between an institutional decision, i.e., “males only need apply,” and a sociological evolution, and I am unwilling to lay the issue of the diminishment of males at the feet of the Movement.

    It remains, however, an issue, a critical one, and M. Lev is right to be worried. Our leaders must represent us all: female, male, gay, straight, Jewish-born, Jew-by-choice, and all who seek a life of mitzvot and b’rit. The challenge is: why are we losing men, and what can we do about it?

  3. Larry Kaufman

    Okay, so my Friday 8 AM Talmud class (taught by a man rabbi) is 2/3 male and 1/3 female, and the 9:30 AM Torah class (taught by a woman rabbi) reverses the ratio.

    I do not even begin to hypothesize that the gender of the instructor is relevant, or that Reform women do not feel adequately informed to study Talmud. My theory is that the men want to study, and something offered at 8 lets them do so, and still get to the office at a reasonable hour. (At least one of the Talmud women leaves promptly for her office, while two who are not in the workforce stay for Torah.) And the women whom I know to be serious students are not so serious that they want to get up at the crack of dawn — if Talmud were repeated at 11, they would stay after Torah class to study Talmud.

    So, as the HuffPo article suggests, at least part of the gender gap in contemporary religion at the lay level is lifestyle and career-demand related. As women continue to break glass ceilings, and even more of them have career responsibilities as demanding as those of their male counterparts, the imbalance may adjust to more of an equilibrium.

    Am I being objective, or merely sexist? I hope the former, but am prepared to be accused of the latter.

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