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    A Bad Day at School
    October 24, 2008
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    By dcc
    I have a cousin in his mid-80s who often reminds me that it was good for the Jews in Austria before Hitler. He was a scholar, his sister was a lawyer (yes a woman in the 1930s), their family was well connected in Vienna. I often remind him that the United States is not inter-war Europe and we know better now. He then waves his hand at me and calls me naive. On days like today I think he might be right.

    Reading the award-winning Dallas Morning News Religion Blog I found this gem of a post. A group of children in Suburban St. Louis, as part of the officially sanctioned school "Spirit Week" comprised of "High Five Day" and "Hug a Friend Day," choose to celebrate "Hit a Jew Day" as just one more way to be true to their school.

    What upsets me the most are the students who knew of the day's activities but said nothing to their teachers. We all know German Lutheran pastor Friedrich Gustav Emil Martin Niemoller's truism, but this isn't about being charted off into gas chambers. This is about the destruction of our humanity and social fabric, the penultimate step towards burning books.

    Our public schools in the United States have long been the place were people who look, act, eat and believe differently come together to learn about our social responsibility, about the best way to move forward and make a better life. Schools are the incubators of the American Dream. However when a school allows for something like this to take place, we lose the ability to provide a safe and nurturing environment for all our children. We are all responsible for our next generation. Just as our tradition teaches Kol Israel Arevim Ze Laze, All of Israel are Responsible for One Another, we too are all responsible for our fellow citizens. We must take more responsibility to make our schools vehicles of learning and progress for our children.

    While I am sure this is an isolated event, I bet my cousin would say I am just being naive.

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    M. B. said:

    dcc:

    Whoa! This is getting blown entirely out of proportion. Look at the article in the Boston Herald. These were just a few middle school kids misbehaving on one day who stand to be punished by the school. The Herald:

    "...Soon, though, the days moved from friendly to silly. Next there was "Hit a Tall Person Day" and, finally, "Hit a Jew Day."

    District officials believe a handful of children were directly involved. Those who actually struck classmates could face suspension and required counseling, Tandy said. Others who weren’t directly involved but taunted Jewish students or egged on classmates could face lesser penalties...."

    To compare this with pre WW II Austria is just plain nonsense. Austria had a deep tradition of antisemitism going back centuries. Jew in America not only had religious freedom, they were U.S. Senators and held high cabinet positions, they were high ranking officers in the army and navy, they included professionals and respected businessmen, and they had full civil rights and wide acceptance when Austrian Jews couldn't even live in Vienna. Austrian Jews had severe restrictions on their practice of religion (which hampered the development of Reform Judaism) and of their occupations and education. The level of social prejudice on the best day in prewar Austria was far worse than on the worst day in America.

    Your elderly cousin may be hypersensitive, but no reasonable equivalence can be said to exist between Hitler's homeland prior to WW II and the good ole USA.

    I agree that public school are the incubators of the American dream. It is sad to see so many Jews in recent years segregating their children in lily white Jewish parochial school rather than where they can grow up with children of other religions, races and backgrounds. This has not been so much of a Reform problem, as our more progressive members are more favorable towards integrated public education for their kids, and where that is not a reasonable alternative due to failing schools, choosing private schools which enroll students of all religions, races and national origins. Few things are more important to keeping America free of antisemitism than educating our Jewish children with children of other faiths. It's hard to instill silly prejudices about groups when you have grown up with members of the group, studied and played with them, visited in their homes, been in the same clubs and on the same teams and squads since childhood. Nothing Jewish parochial schools accomplish can make up for the damage they do to Jews and Christians alike by segregating them in the formative years of their life.

    Larry Kaufman said:

    Having followed your links to Dallas and St. Louis, it seems we can exonerate the school, which apparently plans to take significant disciplinary measures against the offenders. So I ask, not what kind of school do these kids go to, but what kind of homes do they come from?

    And while I don't want to blame the victims, I wonder what motivated the parents of the Jewish kids to move into a community where they would be so isolated. (I don't recall if the St. Louis article talked about the total enrollment in the school, but it did reference a total of 36 Jewish kids. Sure, we should feel comfortable sending our kids to school anywhere, but I would opt for an environment that provides some safety in numbers. Or am I being naive?

    David H. said:

    At first I was just going to observe that one of the lessons to be learned from this incident is that kids are mean.

    I was content with that until I read Larry Kaufman's comment: "Sure, we should feel comfortable sending our kids to school anywhere, but I would opt for an environment that provides some safety in numbers."

    Makes sense on the surface, but we don't know anything about that community other than what the newspapers say.

    So I'll tell you about my area instead. I live in Montgomery County, Maryland -- a large, diverse, in places wealthy suburb of Washington, DC. Enough Jews live in the area to populate several synagogues. But my 9-year-old son is one of a handful of Jewish students at his school.

    So in answer to the question, "What motivated the parents of the Jewish kids to move into a community where they would be so isolated," maybe they aren't isolated, just as we aren't isolated.

    One last thing, maybe the 36 kids in that school are the ones Jewish tradition says are keeping the world in balance.

    And kids are just mean!

    Dennis said:

    The school should have intervened as soon as "spirit week" turned into "hit a tall person week." The opportunity for teaching arose when the students decided that external characteristics of their classmates could determined how they treated them. Moving from "tall people" to Jews (or blacks or women) was an escalation that the adults at the school should have seen coming.

    sharon said:

    In answer to the question "What motivated the parents of the Jewish kids to move into a community where they would be so isolated?" I live in St. Louis and know the Parkway school district well. The Parkway school district has a high percentage of Jewish students compared to other school districts.

    dcc said:

    MB this isn't about pre war Europe. It is about making sure that these situations don't expand to destroy the society that you write about all the time in your comments.

    M. B. said:

    Larry said: "And while I don't want to blame the victims, I wonder what motivated the parents of the Jewish kids to move into a community where they would be so isolated."

    Jews have been living in communities with small Jewish communities since America was first settled by Europeans, and have thrived in them. There are a lot of good reasons for a family to live in a town with a small Jewish population. A lot of people love the friendly, small town atmosphere, where everybody knows everybody, traffic jams are something that happen far away, and life is less hectic. Families may have lived there for many generations and have strong ties to the community. Others may be transferred by their employer from one place to another. Where there is a small Jewish population, people often relate to Jews more as individuals. Military families are moved periodically where the servicemen are needed, sometimes living close to many Jews and sometimes being around few. Some have teaching opportunities in a college or university. Also, the communities with small Jewish populations may be reasonably close to larger Jewish communities.

    The small Jewish communities are not for everyone, but they are the preferred place for some.

    Dennis:
    Don't you think the school would have put a stop to it if they had known of some kids starting a Hit a Tall Person Day?

    Dennis said:

    M. B.: That's the point. According to the article in the St. Louis Post Dispatch, "Hit a Tall Person Day" WAS part of Spirit Week. Actually, this issue was probably blown out of proportion because of the provocative nature of the reporting. As has been pointed out, the school acted proportionally. Nevertheless, the bad publicity could have been avoided by acting before Spirit Week became non-politically correct. Hit a Tall Person Day was out of bounds. Stopping that activity would not have attracted press attention.

    M. B. said:

    Dennis:
    I agree.

    Joseph said:

    This shows the importance of protecting all individuals from violence in our local communities.

    Dee said:

    Reguarding "I wonder what motivated the parents of the Jewish kids to move into a community where they would be so isolated."

    We live in a community where my kids are the only Jews in the district. In the district I teach in (a neighboring one) there are few, if any, Jews teaching or attending the schools. In fact, this year Parent Conferences were held on Yom Kippur and I was required to make them up on my own time!
    Is it difficult to live here-Yes! I drive 55 miles to get to a synagogue. We do it because this is where we found jobs. It is difficult to always be the one who stands up for the minority (JWs, Muslims, Jews, etc.) However, there is a benefit. We are forced to face moral choices all the time. I have to stand up for myself, my children, and everyone else. It certainly keeps me from being complacent! Maybe that's the reason why I'm here. :)

    Aaron Relyea said:

    I personally don't feel that this bizarre school incident (old news by now Nov 20) is a sign that the US is one step away from the 1930s era when pro-Nazi rallies were held in public with pride and good press coverage. However, having gone to public schools myself, I now feel greatly deprived of a deep Jewish education. I now am blessed to send my son to the JCC pre-school and it is awesome to be surrounded by Jews. They have sports on Sunday, swimming pools open on Sundays, and all sorts of resources for families. I can't get other men to come to Shabbat morning services with me(even with childcare available) and our kids play alone most of the time while the babysitter talks on her cell and puts in a video for the kids. I envy the men at my Temple that can sing the whole Birkat Hamazon by heart. I assume they learned it as kids by being exposed to the prayers early and frequently. When I was growing up in public school, my friends could sing "Straight Outta Compton" by heart and freestyle beatbox with the best. Now I just try to get my son and daughter to say the Shema with me and amen our Brachot.

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