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    Galilee Diary: Peace talk VI: Listening
    June 30, 2009
    Israel (6 comments)

    by Marc Rosenstein
    (Originally published in
    Galilee Diary and Ten Minutes of Torah)

    tmt-bug.jpgThey combined against Moses and Aaron and said to them, "You have gone too far! For all the community are holy, all of them, and the Lord is in their midst. Why then do you raise yourselves above the Lord's congregation?" When Moses heard this, he fell on his face.
    -Numbers 16:3-4

    Last week, the local chapter of Sikkui, a moderate, non-militant non-profit organization that engages in programs of research and education to further equal rights in Israel (research reports, public lectures, seminars, etc.) held an evening panel discussion on the topic of "fear, racism, and inequality;" the focus was on discussing the reasons behind the efforts for and against residential segregation in the Galilee. The invited speakers represented a pretty wide range of views (similar to a program we offered a few months ago, about which I wrote here). And while the audience, characteristically, consisted mainly of people with more "leftist" sympathies, it was actually pretty heterogeneous, as the speakers were a draw (The moderator was Israel Prize Laureate Prof. Gabi Solomon). However, one part of the audience was a little surprising: a busload from the nearby city of Karmiel (pop. 50,000), led by a mayoral candidate from the last election, whose platform had been "keep the Arabs out of Karmiel." They seem to have come not to listen and discuss, but to heckle and disrupt and wave Israeli flags, until, largely ignored, they got bored and left.

    While these visitors were not expected, their antics fit squarely into a central element of Israeli public discourse, one of the least attractive aspects of Israeli culture: The assumption that the appropriate way to deal with opinions I do not like is to silence them or outshout them; if no one can hear them, then they don't exist and we don't have to think about them or respond to them. I'm not sure where this approach came from - if it is Middle Eastern, or if our founding fathers brought it with them from Russia. In any case, it drives most of us Anglos crazy. And while the Knesset is perhaps the place where it can best be observed in its extreme form, it permeates all levels of discourse. Trying to conduct a civilized discussion of a controversial issue in a youth group or class room - or teacher in-service - is a constant and frustrating exercise in fighting this approach and trying to get people to listen to each other. Perhaps that is why there are so many academic and quasi-academic professional training programs here in "group facilitation," and why that is such a popular profession - we can't seem to have a group discussion without professional help! I first encountered this behavior shortly after we arrived at Shorashim, when the community began a "discussion" of the question of privatization of the collective economy. Hearing our new nice, educated, middle-class neighbors trying to out-scream each other (thereby, of course, not advancing a solution in any way) was daunting. In the end we hired an expensive facilitator and are all living happily together 20 years later.

    Recently, we have seen this "silence the Other" approach carried to a worrying extreme, as there is legislation currently before the Knesset which would forbid anyone from holding any kind of public recognition of the "Nakba" - "the catastrophe" - which is how many Israeli Arabs refer to their defeat in the War of Independence. Presumably, if we never have to listen to the Arabs express their memories of loss and humiliation, those feelings will go away (or maybe the Arabs will get so frustrated that they'll just go away). Similarly, the Ultra-Orthodox act as if shutting down the Gay Pride Parade will either cause homosexuality to disappear - or will cause homosexuals to find another country.

    Interesting that the best-known imperative in the Jewish tradition - "Listen, O Israel..." - is the one we have the hardest time doing.

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    Rabbi Art Gould said:

    "Silence the Other" as you label it, is hardly unique to Israel. We experience it directed at pro-Israel speakers anytime someone tries to make an appearance in Berkeley, California, especially at the University of Cal at Berkeley. It takes two forms; making sufficient trouble so that appearances are canceled due to safety concerns, or actually "shouting down" the speaker when s/he attempts to speak.

    Let us also not forget that practically the entire Arab world engages in massive "silence the other" by tactics exemplified by refusing to show even pre-1967 border Israel on maps, refusing to say the word "Israel", instead using the term "Zionist entity," and often by refusing to openly meet face to face with Israeli representatives, instead insisting on 3rd party mediation.

    I also think that a reasonable job of "listening" is being done by groups like RHR, Macsom watch and the more than a dozen other groups (too many to list here) that advocate on behalf of both Palestinians and Israeli Arabs.

    In our laudable desire to live up fully to the teachings of the Torah, let's not lose touch with the (I call it a) fact that we are not doing all that badly. We aren't completing the work of "listening" but we aren't exactly desisting from it either.

    William Berkson said:

    What is so disappointing about the behavior you report on is that it is so contrary to the standards of Judaism. There is a very strong critical tradition in Judaism, exemplified by the Talmud.

    Pirkei Avot, laying down the marker for endorsing the critical tradition--which it got from Socrates and the Greeks--says "Every dispute for the sake of heaven will be established." And the Talmud records debates and minority opinions. And there are many principles for the conduct of civil debate, for "derekh eretz" in disputation in Avot and the Talmud.

    My late teacher, Karl Popper, argued in "The Open Society and its Enemies" that this critical tradition is a key to vitality and progress in open, democratic societies.

    It is incredibly sad that this area in which Jewish tradition is perhaps the strongest in the world, is not dominant among Israeli Jews, if things are as you report.

    Another huge disappointment for those of us with all best wishes and hopes for the Jewish homeland is the way every government seems to explode in a corruption scandal. Can't the Jewish state be a little more Jewish?

    Betty Ann Ross said:

    I would like to recommend a book entitled "Unsettled, the Problem of Loving Israel", by Marc Aronson. It is a wonderfully balanced and nuanced approach to telling the story of Jewish and Arab citizens of Israel. It is an articulate presentation of information that is particularly meaningful to American teens, to whom it is addressed, as it makes reference over and over to the similarities and differences between life in Israel and in the United States.
    I have prepared a discussion guide for the book in collaboration with the author that would support its use in high school classrooms, and would be happy to share my ideas with anyone who is interested.


    Gerald Fleischmann said:

    Thank you, Marc, for your invariably insightful and thought-provoking articles. Having been a Toastmaster for 17 years, I visited Israel a couple years ago on a wonderful tour with my congregation, and brought along many pounds of Toastmasters magazines, brochures, and publicity, with the intent and hope of starting up a club somewhere along our extensive tour path. Despite months of follow-up, no club sprouted, let alone took root. A fellow Toastmaster the next year made aliyah, and was determined to start a club in Israel. Over a year later, still nothing. Toastmasters is the world's preeminent organization for communication and leadership, building these skills on better speaking, better listening, and better thinking. The speaking part, I found, is not a problem for any Israeli! The listening part, however, is a huge challenge and is most worrisome to me, mainly because these clubs are growing rapidly around the world, and notably, in most middle-East countries near Israel. But still not Israel. I've learned that other Toastmasters have also tried getting a club going in Israel over several years. If the surrounding Arab countries' citizens "get it" with respect to listening, and Israelis can't, what are the odds that Israel will be able to hold its own in international negotiations? Listening is a major part of leadership talents. Still hoping that someone in Israel would like to learn to listen.

    Janice Fleischer said:

    As a public policy large group facilitator in the United States for the last 16 years dealing mostly with environmental issues and seeing the power of the process, all I can say about Mr. Rosenstein's article is: WOW! How honest, how intuitive, how powerful to acknowledge shortcomings thereby initiating the dialogue to resolve them. I read Israel Connections regularly and always find myself fascinated with his candor and insights.

    William Berkson said:

    I am wondering, since it is very Jewish to listen respectfully to contrary opinions, could the Reform movement do something in Israel to spread these ideas as Jewish ideas?

    And as Janice has alluded to, there have been in the past 30 or 40 years been wonderful techniques developed for negotiation and problem-solving that complement the traditional values.

    I think there is an opportunity here for an Reform Jewish institution that teaches problem-solving, mediation, negotiation etc. for peace from the family to the nation.

    I know Rabbi Marc Gopin, an academic here at George Mason, is an expert on this who has also worked in Israel, and there must be others.

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